Concetta Goodenough

Several years ago I received the intake information for a new customer for my medical supply business. When I read her name, Concetta Goodenough it just warmed my heart because I thought how awesome it would be to have a name that always reminded us that truth that we are good enough.

When Jeff and I served in the addiction recovery program we found that the root of every addiction was a core belief that “I am not good enough”
When I was at the Soul Purpose Intensive last week we were taught what is called the cycle of belief.

It begins by stating that the beliefs that we have (especially about ourselves) are either empowering or limiting. Next we discussed our potential. We all have unlimited potential, but depending on whether or now our beliefs are empowering or limiting will make us more powerful to achieve our potential or power-less.

The way we use our potential then leads to our actions. If we have empowering beliefs that help us see our full potential with power, then our actions will be productive.
However if we are operating on limiting beliefs that keep us feeling power-less, our actions will either be self-destructive, or our inaction will lead us to keep entrenched in the ruts we have so carefully carved for ourselves.

The results of our actions lead to either poverty or prosperity. We can actually be experiencing prosperity in one area of our lives, such as financial but be completely poverty stricken in our physical body or our relationships.

For example suppose a person is operation on the belief that “I will never be good enough” That belief creates a feeling of powerlessness over any circumstance and can lead directly to victim mentality. The cycle then leads the person to either do self-destructive things such as drugs, alcohol, sexual promiscuity or any number of other ways to prove that their belief system is correct including doing nothing at all to change any of the circumstances. The results are always in accordance with the original core belief.

The brain then seeks for a witness that the core belief is correct. So when the results of the belief that I will never be good enough reflect poverty, it’s like the brain says…told you so…I am worth less and can never be good enough…and so the cycle continues.

I have had the privilege of working with someone I care deeply about. He has been going through some very challenging times and is very committed to healing. We have had several breakthroughs in finding out what his core beliefs are and have had some sweet experiences as he has remembered who he truly is and has told himself the truth.

The other day he knew something very big had come up and once again sought some input from me. As we visited the answers he was seeking seemed a bit elusive until I went and got a mirror.
I asked him to look at his eyes and tell his image that he was good enough. His eyes filled with tears and he looked away. He just could not bring himself to say those words because for so long he had felt inadequate.

There was no convincing him otherwise, so I put the mirror down on the floor and asked him what he would have to do in order to step from the land of “notgoodenough” into the land of “goodenough”. As he thought about it, the list could go on forever because if the belief is I will never be good enough, then guess what? Nothing you ever do can change that.
I suggested that he just decide to step into a new land of limitless possibilities by changing his belief to I am ok just as I am. That doesn’t mean a person can’t continue to grow and change and expand. It just gives permission to shift the belief cycle into one that will create productive action and prosperity.

It is just a choice. It was interesting to see him hesitate to just step over what was really an imaginary line. But finally he built up his courage, took a big breath, and said “I AM GOOD ENOUGH!!!” and stepped across the line. I gave him a big hug and welcomed him into a whole new arena of possibilities and suggested that once he was accepted as a residence of this land, he never had to leave if he didn’t want to. But if he ever decided to go hang out in the land of “notgoodenough” again…he could choose how long to visit.

We all are beings with limitless possibilities. Be courageous to choose to live in the land of “Goodenough” with my friend Concetta. It is a wonderful place to take up permanent residence.

By the way, the reason I started writing again is because even though I am going back to school in the fall to study writing and communications, I am already good enough to share my little ramblings on this blog.

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